well when I asked why the out of there post, if you had of told me cuz the card kinda brought it to the surface, I would have understood more :) re meeting on the internet..I still feel it can be an awesome way to get to KNOW someone..if both people are open and honest and find the anonymity good for opening up and chatting up a storm, however, I feel for the most part, you have a better chance of it working if you live a hell of a lot nearer to each other. In my case, he was from England as well..but he just could not bring himself to change his life drastically to move here..and I DO understand that. It is a major thing to do, MAJOR, and to be fearful the relationship will not work..well you have left your job and family etc. In sis's case tho, I think if anyone can bridge the barrier of the distance, it would be Graham and my sis - and why do I think that especially after my experience? Because it also depends on the character of the person..and their basic personality. Graham is not like Gary in a lot of ways..and I think he has more of the type of character that COULD make this work. However, I think the odds are not good for a distance thing..yet the ones in the minority that DO make it work, it works 100% and kudos to them. I know of a few couples who have done this and are still doing wonderfully!
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Date: 2005-07-13 12:02 am (UTC)re meeting on the internet..I still feel it can be an awesome way to get to KNOW someone..if both people are open and honest and find the anonymity good for opening up and chatting up a storm, however, I feel for the most part, you have a better chance of it working if you live a hell of a lot nearer to each other.
In my case, he was from England as well..but he just could not bring himself to change his life drastically to move here..and I DO understand that. It is a major thing to do, MAJOR, and to be fearful the relationship will not work..well you have left your job and family etc.
In sis's case tho, I think if anyone can bridge the barrier of the distance, it would be Graham and my sis - and why do I think that especially after my experience? Because it also depends on the character of the person..and their basic personality. Graham is not like Gary in a lot of ways..and I think he has more of the type of character that COULD make this work.
However, I think the odds are not good for a distance thing..yet the ones in the minority that DO make it work, it works 100% and kudos to them. I know of a few couples who have done this and are still doing wonderfully!