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I flew home on Monday afternoon after we spent the weekend in London. Graham's dad was doing pretty well through the week and we were comfortable being away for two days and indeed his dad wanted us to go. He hated spoiling my holiday. I kept telling him he was more important but we did at least get out and do some things around hospice visits. He was showing improvement and the doctors were pleased at that. They didn't know what was around the corner but hoped he could continue to where he could maybe be installed in a nursing home.
Anyway, I flew home, Graham went home on the train. I texted him when i landed and he said he'd just been to see his dad and was going home on the bus. I assume all was as it was before the weekend or he wouldn't have left or he'd have said something. Not long after he got home they called him back because his father was not well and having what seemed to be panic attacks and they couldn't settle him down. I don't have a lot of detail but at some point they took him to the hospital where Graham called me from last night (6:30 my time, 10:30 his time). He was upset and it didn't sound good though they thought if he could get through the night, he might rally. They told Graham they thought maybe one of the blood clots on his dad's lungs might have burst. His dad did seem to be in pain and they could only give him so much morphine at a time. He wasn't any calmper and was still restless and seemingly panicked.
Graham called again 6 hours later and said his father had passed. I gather his brother's widow and the "lads" drove up from Ipswich in 4 hours (usually takes longer) and they got there in time. Graham is sure Bill knew they were there though I think he may have been unconscious by then. I'm not sure of that either but he did say it was peaceful at the end so presuming so.
I'm upset I couldn't be there, but glad his family was so he didn't go through it alone. I'm glad Bill didn't end up lingering. I know things work out the way they are meant to but it's difficult when you're far away. If i'd been there i could have extended my time off for bereavement leave but I'm not sure i'll be able to turn around now and go back again.
It's going to be tough for him, he was very close to his dad. I'm glad the two weeks i was there his dad was in fairly good spirits and showing improvements.
I flew home on Monday afternoon after we spent the weekend in London. Graham's dad was doing pretty well through the week and we were comfortable being away for two days and indeed his dad wanted us to go. He hated spoiling my holiday. I kept telling him he was more important but we did at least get out and do some things around hospice visits. He was showing improvement and the doctors were pleased at that. They didn't know what was around the corner but hoped he could continue to where he could maybe be installed in a nursing home.
Anyway, I flew home, Graham went home on the train. I texted him when i landed and he said he'd just been to see his dad and was going home on the bus. I assume all was as it was before the weekend or he wouldn't have left or he'd have said something. Not long after he got home they called him back because his father was not well and having what seemed to be panic attacks and they couldn't settle him down. I don't have a lot of detail but at some point they took him to the hospital where Graham called me from last night (6:30 my time, 10:30 his time). He was upset and it didn't sound good though they thought if he could get through the night, he might rally. They told Graham they thought maybe one of the blood clots on his dad's lungs might have burst. His dad did seem to be in pain and they could only give him so much morphine at a time. He wasn't any calmper and was still restless and seemingly panicked.
Graham called again 6 hours later and said his father had passed. I gather his brother's widow and the "lads" drove up from Ipswich in 4 hours (usually takes longer) and they got there in time. Graham is sure Bill knew they were there though I think he may have been unconscious by then. I'm not sure of that either but he did say it was peaceful at the end so presuming so.
I'm upset I couldn't be there, but glad his family was so he didn't go through it alone. I'm glad Bill didn't end up lingering. I know things work out the way they are meant to but it's difficult when you're far away. If i'd been there i could have extended my time off for bereavement leave but I'm not sure i'll be able to turn around now and go back again.
It's going to be tough for him, he was very close to his dad. I'm glad the two weeks i was there his dad was in fairly good spirits and showing improvements.
